The sexual needs of disabled people


This is a taboo subject. It shouldn’t be, but it is. On one level, society, as a whole, does not feel comfortable discussing the importance of sex to disabled men and women. On another level, people are generally horrified to think about escorts providing a service to satisfy the sexual needs of disabled people. This is extremely taboo, but why.

The legalities involved in pursuing such services, aside, is it morally wrong for a disabled man or woman to seek sexually satisfaction in the caring and safe arms of an escort? The Daily Telegraph asks the question ‘Are we ignoring the sexual needs of disabled people?’ in an article that reviews sex campaigner Dr Tuppy Owens’ latest book, titled Supporting Disabled People with their Sexual Lives, which is aimed at giving carers the information they need to broach the subject with their clients. Topics covered include dealing with physical limitations, the range of the sexual services available online and elsewhere and the legalities involved in pursuing such services.

Like it or not, disabled men and women have been using escort services for years. This is nothing new to our industry. Asian escorts in London are particularly known for welcoming disabled customers. We offer companionship, a caring, safe environment for men and women who may lack the confidence or opportunity to have ‘normal’ relationships with the opposite sex.

We also know of several men who, after visiting escorts, have grown in confidence about their own sexual ability and gone on to find meaningful relationships with non-escort women. Dr Owens is actually quoted as saying "A lot of what we’re doing is helping disabled people gain the sexual confidence so that when they do meet someone they like, they don’t mess it up," Owens says. "It’s all about being positive and enjoying it and achieving some sexual fun for the first time in their lives."

The book also looks to debunk the notion that people with disabilities are in some way asexual. As Owens says, they’re often "denied a sexual self" and the overarching theme of the book is an attempt to redress society’s attitudes towards the sexual expression of the disabled. Owens also cites the growth of online dating as one further barrier between disabled people and intimate encounters.